Love. Something we all crave and want.
Acceptance. We just want to know that other love us.
Self-love. We keep hearing about it and you think, don’t I already love myself? How could I even love myself anymore?
Worthiness. I am worthy of love, aren’t I?
The question is, how do these words impact our work life and our success?
We keep hearing about them but aren’t they separate from work life? Is there a way that these are impacting your success at work?
The person who annoys us the most at work is actually mirroring aspects of ourselves that we need to heal.
I know you are thinking…Really, you are kidding me, right? right?
Actually I am not, well kind of. There are two things that can happen. They are either mirroring an aspect we need to heal or an aspect we have healed to show us how far we have come.
Now you are thinking, but can’t they just be annoying without these lessons?
Well think about it. Think about the person that annoys you the most at work. Who do they remind you of? The person they remind you of, what did they used to do to annoy you? Is there a similarity between the two? What lesson did you have to learn from the other person that used to annoy you? What did you need to think or believe and the situation got better?
Yes all of these situations teach us lessons. Sometimes it is as simple as compassion, forgiveness or aspects of ourselves that we need to love.
So now do you see how love, acceptance, worthiness and self love play into your work life. We may be reflected aspects of what we need to heal in our work environment. If we have increased worthiness, love and acceptance in our lives, we show up differently at work. We are more inclined to think for the betterment of the company instead of being stuck in our own story. We are also more inclined to take risks in the workplace by stretching outside the comfort zone.
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I am sure we have all been there, where there is a disagreement that is based on different perspectives of a situation which created misunderstandings and further miscommunication.
I admit I used to be one of those people who communicated better through email than in-person especially when I wanted to hear. I realized why I communicated better this way was because then the other person doesn’t have an opportunity to talk and I don’t have to deal with their emotions or their perspectives.
Did this work well? No it didn’t. It ended up being a one-sided conversation that usually didn’t get a response as the other person would just choose to not respond as they wanted to talk about it in person.
When it came to the in-person meeting, I would get nervous and anxious as now I knew that my ego was panicking. My ego didn’t know what to do with the situation on hand as now there may be a chance that I might be wrong.
Through learning about how to resolve conflict as a human resources professional, I decided to take up some of these techniques in my personal life.
I decided that if I had something I was not particularly happy with, I would address it almost immediately or at the best chance either on the phone or in-person (even over the phone is a little bit of being a chicken but for certain situations is better than sending emails or text messages). I would let the person know what is on my mind, ask them what their thoughts were on the situation and then we would have a discussion about it. At this point, there is a more of a mutual understanding that could lead to resolution of some sorts. There are cases that these conversations may lead to an amicable end to a relationship. I also soon released that there are others who do not like conflict, do not like to discuss their values and feelings nor do they like to come to amicable resolutions unless they are right. In a workplace, both parties would be called in for a meeting to discuss what has happened, in personal relationships there is no management to make this happen.
So what does one do when the conflict resolution techniques do not work in personal relationships?
One of the best resources on conflict that I found was this article:
It helped to understand why conflict occurs, the responses to it and how to move through it.
I write this article as a reflection of the past conflicts in my life that I wish I had dealt with differently, with more understanding and more awareness.