Some aspects of our lives come easier than others. We have become a master at being fulfilled at those areas as we are able to do what it takes to truly gain success in those areas. There may be other areas that are a struggle and require more focus and attention.
Recently I put the Guide to surviving family events as a single person out there and the comments/feedback I received reminded me of a few things:
- According to the Wheel of Life exercise, we can only be truly fulfilled as the lowest area on the wheel of life.
- How in many cases, some women really find career alot easier or they find relationships with others or the relationship with their body – it is usually a few select areas that they find easier to master and feel fulfilled.
- The areas that they are not fulfilled, they have been struggling at and now feel frustrated.
So as I write this, I am feeling the need to share a key question that will allow you to feel more fulfilled. It is simple, “What do I need to do or be in order to be more fulfilled in the _____ area of my life?”
That’s it, you may be thinking. Yes, you have the answer within yourself. Sometimes you may have a blind spot or need to work with a coach to develop a plan and see the blind spot but really that is it. Ask yourself on a consistent basis this question and see what miracles occur.
Yes, miracles can occur from a simple question. You are opening your mind up to new possibilities, new way of doing things and a new way of approaching life.
Ask yourself the question and what came up for you?
PS: Download the Guide to surviving family events as a single person even if you are in a relationship or single, there is a seven step process to gain confidence and feel more fulfilled in the guide.
Deep thoughts by Manpreet
It has been a whirlwind life in a the past few years as everything has turned upside down and inside out including myself. I changed as a person where I brought back aspects of how I was as a child, became more aware of what aspects of my personality weren’t working for me and how I could change them.
Relationships changed. Someone people came into my life and some people moved to different circles. Lost some beautiful souls and gained others.
Financially life changed. Became innovative with how income was generated and the Focus shifted from money to how can I contribute and sometimes I would falter and focus on money. Then I would be in scarcity so I moved back to contribution.
I used the opportunity of social media to shift how people viewed death and grieving. I learned a lot from others.
I felt like an imposter and fraud at times but then would be reminded by amazing clients of how I impacted their lives for the better just through coaching or a seminar or a resource.
What I learned from all this is trust, have faith and do things even if they don’t make sense. If you feel called to something do it and if you don’t feel called ask yourself is it resistance or is it not for me.
I embodied the energy that life happens for us and it really does. Each person we meet and each situation we create are all happening for us.
I felt the need to share that what life looks like to others is maybe not what is happening for the other person or not how they perceive their life. Sometimes we just need to acknowledge in that moment that the person is reaching out in someway for their happiness or a teaching moment or maybe it’s validation or acceptance in some way.
Many times what we teach is what we don’t do ourselves but that doesn’t make us any less of expert. It just shows us that we need to focus on ourselves first then others so you can lead by example.
I have been coaching for over 6 years and it has been such a push pull relationship – a pattern very common in my life. I love it and hate it but it wasn’t until earlier this year when the realization came that if I let go of the struggle then I really can be happy. When we are meant to do something we may resist it as we have preconceived notions of where life was supposed to take us. I didn’t realize I knew how to help businesses with how to do marketing strategy as well as human resources until this year even though for years I have been overseeing and developing marketing strategies.
It wasn’t until a few months ago I realized I built a consulting firm focusing on coaching, leadership, human resources, marketing and events. I built it without even knowing it. I had registered the name Manpreet Dhillon Consulting Group but didn’t know what it meant at that time. My vision was different and now it has grown to serve pan-cultural individuals to be successful business owners and have amazing careers while helping businesses grow through HR and marketing services especially focusing on diversity, community and engagement. Now I will be serving more professional women who are in transitions in their careers through job services, mentoring, networking and other programs while balancing family and cultural obligations and their individual desires.
As a business coach, I would cringe as the plans and growth were changing too often but I see that how I grow my business grows.
So in summary, follow your heart, grow as an individual so you can help others grow and let life happen for you.
In the past few weeks, I have been on the highest of highs. The last two months allowed me to really see how I can change the world! (Yes, I set lofty goals for myself like changing the world).
I am feeling good about myself, my contributions, how I am showing up and it was all wonderful!
Until the last big event finished, then I realized, I wasn’t feeling happy.
I was feeling tired, cranky and stressed.
I was puzzled as to what was missing.
Upon reflection, I realized I didn’t take care of my body as I hadn’t planned my meals or my workouts.
I also realized that the last two months, I worried about what’s next instead of having fun in the moment.
I missed out on a lot of fun.
Then I started calculating how much fun I missed out over the last few years.
I had a choice, I could be angry with myself or I could have compassion for myself.
I choose compassion.
I did what I thought was right at that moment each time. I also had fun in the way that I knew how. Now my definition of fun has changed.
Where do you need to choose compassion for yourself? Where has your definition of something changed that you haven’t realized yet?
My new definition of fun allows me to have fun in any moment where I have a smile on my face. My new definition of fun allows me to have fun when I feel connected. Before I could only have fun when I was laughing really loud and I was out and about. Those are strict rules to have fun.
What rules do you need to change for yourself?
Choose an area where you want to change your rules, make life easier to enjoy for yourself.
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