Regrets? (how to move forward)

Looking back. Regrets. Moving forward.

How often are you looking back at life and thinking “what if?”
What if you had made a decision to stay?
What if you had taken the other job?
What if you hadn’t moved?
What if… {fill in the blank}?

It is one of those things that we all ponder. Would our lives really have been different if we hadn’t made that decision? Would our lives have been different if we had taken a different action? Would we be happier?

The past is the past. It has happened already. Newsflash…it doesn’t affect your present or your future. Each morning you wake up, you start with a blank slate. It is really your decision as to what you want to create each and every moment.

If you live in the past and the what if’s, you will stay stuck.

How comfortable are you being stuck? What is the pain giving you? Is it giving you a sense of peace that you survived? Is it giving you a sense of satisfaction that you are messed up as everyone else around you? Is it allowing you to fit in when other’s are complaining?

Well what if that isn’t serving you anymore? What if, you are ready to thrive and soar? You have the right to start your life over and over again each and every day. It is about taking a few moments at the end of the day to forgive for any where you have wronged someone or they have wronged you, it is about being grateful for everything you have and acknowledging how you are special and showed up by being you.

Start each morning with intentions of how you want your day. That is where the strength in spiritual practice is…starting life over, over and over again each and every day.

This ties into how you show up in every area of your life. If you show up in a place of feeling light and free, you will soar and thrive in all areas.

Are you ready to thrive and soar?

If you are wanting extra support on this area, please contact me for the summer coaching offer to support and elevate you. 

Love and light,

Why am I not doing what I want to?

At some point, we may ask ourselves – Why am I not doing what I want to?

We know what we want, we know how to get there but we don’t do what we know we need to do. We may be
-too busy
-there is too much going on
-the time isn’t right
-I am not ready yet
-it’s the other person’s fault
-fill in your reason here.
Our mind can find us a million reasons why we are not doing what we want to do.

Resistance shows up in different ways. We are maybe just too busy and stressed to have a few hours for a coffee date, networking event or even for ourselves. When we are feeling overwhelmed, stressed or too busy is really the time when we need to go within ourselves and ask what am I really avoiding right now? What connection am I avoiding? What emotion am I feeling?

This may not feel so good anymore…. here are a few questions to help move out of resistance.

What is it that you really want to do?

What would be the ideal conditions for you to do what you really want to do? Make a list or images of these conditions.

Being honest with yourself, now assess this list or image for what is really necessary and what isn’t.

Now write down one thing that you can do today towards your goal. Yes just one thing.

Once you have done it, how does it feel to have taken that step towards your goal? How do your reasons feel now?

What is another step you can take tomorrow?

It is very important to have compassion for yourself as you are moving towards your goals. It is also important to recognize the support you have or the type of support you may need right now. Sometimes it is a simple act of nurturing yourself through going for a walk, taking a bath or getting a massage. Other times, you may need some energy work that will help to shift some patterns. Sometimes we need a longer term relationship with a mentor/coach that we can have as our support and allow us to be accountable to our goals.

Honor yourself by asking yourself what is it that your soul is really asking for at this time.