Life happens for us

Deep thoughts by Manpreet
It has been a whirlwind life in a the past few years as everything has turned upside down and inside out including myself. I changed as a person where I brought back aspects of how I was as a child, became more aware of what aspects of my personality weren’t working for me and how I could change them.
Relationships changed. Someone people came into my life and some people moved to different circles. Lost some beautiful souls and gained others.
Financially life changed. Became innovative with how income was generated and the Focus shifted from money to how can I contribute and sometimes I would falter and focus on money. Then I would be in scarcity so I moved back to contribution.
I used the opportunity of social media to shift how people viewed death and grieving. I learned a lot from others.
I felt like an imposter and fraud at times but then would be reminded by amazing clients of how I impacted their lives for the better just through coaching or a seminar or a resource.
What I learned from all this is trust, have faith and do things even if they don’t make sense. If you feel called to something do it and if you don’t feel called ask yourself is it resistance or is it not for me.
I embodied the energy that life happens for us and it really does. Each person we meet and each situation we create are all happening for us.
I felt the need to share that what life looks like to others is maybe not what is happening for the other person or not how they perceive their life. Sometimes we just need to acknowledge in that moment that the person is reaching out in someway for their happiness or a teaching moment or maybe it’s validation or acceptance in some way.
Many times what we teach is what we don’t do ourselves but that doesn’t make us any less of expert. It just shows us that we need to focus on ourselves first then others so you can lead by example.
I have been coaching for over 6 years and it has been such a push pull relationship – a pattern very common in my life. I love it and hate it but it wasn’t until earlier this year when the realization came that if I let go of the struggle then I really can be happy. When we are meant to do something we may resist it as we have preconceived notions of where life was supposed to take us. I didn’t realize I knew how to help businesses with how to do marketing strategy as well as human resources until this year even though for years I have been overseeing and developing marketing strategies.
It wasn’t until a few months ago I realized I built a consulting firm focusing on coaching, leadership, human resources, marketing and events. I built it without even knowing it. I had registered the name Manpreet Dhillon Consulting Group but didn’t know what it meant at that time. My vision was different and now it has grown to serve pan-cultural individuals to be successful business owners and have amazing careers while helping businesses grow through HR and marketing services especially focusing on diversity, community and engagement. Now I will be serving more professional women who are in transitions in their careers through job services, mentoring, networking and other programs while balancing family and cultural obligations and their individual desires.
As a business coach, I would cringe as the plans and growth were changing too often but I see that how I grow my business grows.
So in summary, follow your heart, grow as an individual so you can help others grow and let life happen for you.


Intentional Goal Setting for 2014

As we set off in the new year, many of us are in the reflection mode and goal setting mode. We are looking at what our life was like and now what we want to create.

Here is a template for goal setting that I use for myself. For me, I find it really important to have a lot of feeling behind my intentions.

Goal Setting – 2014

As you are moving through this exercise think of different aspects of your life. The different aspects to think about are:

  • Career
  • Emotions
  • Relationships (Self, Romantic, Family, Friends, Work)
  • Health
  • Finances
  • Contribution

It is always good to check in to see how you are doing in each of these areas. Rate each of these areas 1-10, and see how satisfied are with them. Then start the Goal Setting exercise from this place.

Wishing you on one of the most creative, fun, abundant, loving years of your life.

If you would like to be supported while doing this goal setting exercise, please contact me for a 1/2 hour complimentary exploration call. 

Life Lessons 3.7 – What I learnt from an unexpected experience

Disclaimer: Read only when you are in frame of mind for some heavy thinking and reflecting:) It will make you feel differently about your life.

The past few weeks have had many emotional roller coasters, different mindsets and a lot of reflecting for me.

This post is about the lessons we learn through changes, some of which are deemed unpleasant in society such as death.

On July 28th, my younger brother transitioned from the physical world to his next calling. Everyone who was affected remembered how the news was delivered and how they felt when this news impacted them. Reflection 1: Everyone was in tune to their emotions and what was happening in their life. I realized very quickly that this does not happen on a regular basis. How often do you pay attention to your emotions on a daily basis? Do you live a life aware of your emotions and the moments in your life?

As the week progressed, there were many conversations about how my brother, Taranveer lived his life. Many people reflected on how he lived life to the fullest, he impacted the lives of many through his fun nature, he could make anything a good time and treated the people in his life as his treasures. People reflected on how they needed to change their own thoughts, behaviours and actions with some of his attitude and his approach. What are aspects of your life that you would like a re-do on? What support do you need in order to make those changes into lasting changes?

The family decided that we wanted the funeral to be a complete celebration of his life. Being Sikh and Indian, we knew we would be judged for not following all of the customs and traditions and for minimizing the wailing that typically occurs at Indian funerals but for us it was important that the soul of my brother transitions in the most peaceful and joyful manner. I personally ensured that the house and funeral hall was set with a love and peaceful energy at all times throughout the last few weeks. It was important for me to maintain my energy so that this transition of my brother’s soul was a most beautiful experience at many levels. I allowed in support from family and friends to have so much taken care of around me so that I could have the strength and focus to ensure that the mourning was as gentle as possible for all those who came to pay their respects.

At the viewing, I was the older protective sister at times but also containing the energy so my brother’s soul felt the love from all those who’s hearts he touched. It was understood that everyone be given the space and care to express their emotion instead of bottling it up inside. Some of his close people left treasured memories in his coffin as he transitioned, while others just connected with his soul to pay their respects.

I was fortunate that I was able to have an amazing experience whereas I felt the connection between my soul and my brother’s  and I realized our bodies were truly just vehicles supporting this physical life that we have. It is so important to take care of these vehicles that we have as that is one of the highest sign of respect for our souls. Personally, I have been always paying more attention to taking care of my emotional and spiritual well being whereas I spend less energy on my mental and physical. For me, I made a decision to bring balance into my life in these four areas through food, exercise, relaxation and having a more solid support network. How do you rate your well-being for these four areas on a scale of 1-10: emotional , mental, physical and spiritual (if you would like resources to help you start on any of these four areas, please email me at manpreet@intoessencecoaching.com)?

The funeral and celebration of life was a complete honouring of Taranveer. From the respects, to the speeches to the slideshow to the stories. People cried, they laughed and they remembered how he had impacted their lives. We have heard many times to think about how you want to be remembered. One of the best exercises that I have ever done is to write my own remembrance speech. This speech allowed me to define how I wanted to live my life, what I wanted to be remembered for and what impact I want to make. Ask yourself of how you want to live your life, what do you want to be remembered for and what impact do you want to make? What is one action you can take towards this life? What kind of accountability system do you need to ensure you live this life – a coach, a mentor, a support network?

Over the next few weeks there will be posts about other lessons learned through this experience.

If you need any support on any of these questions, feel free to contact me to schedule  a 1/2 hour complimentary call at manpreet@intoessencecoaching.com.