Why am I not doing what I want to?

At some point, we may ask ourselves – Why am I not doing what I want to?

We know what we want, we know how to get there but we don’t do what we know we need to do. We may be
-too busy
-there is too much going on
-the time isn’t right
-I am not ready yet
-it’s the other person’s fault
-fill in your reason here.
Our mind can find us a million reasons why we are not doing what we want to do.

Resistance shows up in different ways. We are maybe just too busy and stressed to have a few hours for a coffee date, networking event or even for ourselves. When we are feeling overwhelmed, stressed or too busy is really the time when we need to go within ourselves and ask what am I really avoiding right now? What connection am I avoiding? What emotion am I feeling?

This may not feel so good anymore…. here are a few questions to help move out of resistance.

What is it that you really want to do?

What would be the ideal conditions for you to do what you really want to do? Make a list or images of these conditions.

Being honest with yourself, now assess this list or image for what is really necessary and what isn’t.

Now write down one thing that you can do today towards your goal. Yes just one thing.

Once you have done it, how does it feel to have taken that step towards your goal? How do your reasons feel now?

What is another step you can take tomorrow?

It is very important to have compassion for yourself as you are moving towards your goals. It is also important to recognize the support you have or the type of support you may need right now. Sometimes it is a simple act of nurturing yourself through going for a walk, taking a bath or getting a massage. Other times, you may need some energy work that will help to shift some patterns. Sometimes we need a longer term relationship with a mentor/coach that we can have as our support and allow us to be accountable to our goals.

Honor yourself by asking yourself what is it that your soul is really asking for at this time.